How to... maintain your dating reputation

Let’s face it if you have one failed relationship after another then people will start to look at you in a different way. It has been said that a man is only as good as his name so a plan of action is needed to maintain your status, or no woman will ever look at you again.

It's time to stand up and act like a man, treat the women in your life with respect and become the adult your parents always wanted you to be.

Treat your relationship like a career
Relationships are like jobs -- few people expect them to last a lifetime. Be certain to make a good impression and stay on your best behaviour. By treating her properly and refusing to burn bridges you'll assure yourself a quality reference for the future.

Don't be a cheapskate
You don't have to break the bank to keep most women entertained. If you can't afford a nice restaurant, come up with a romantic alternative like a picnic in the park. If going to the opera is too expensive, take her to a community theatre instead. The rewards will keep both of you happy.

Know when to hold 'em and know when to fold 'em
Far too many men make the mistake of prolonging a bad relationship simply because they don't want to hurt their partner's feelings. However noble the sentiment, that only allows angst and resentment to build.

So, get out while the getting's good, and make sure to do the job properly, don’t send her an email to tell her it’s over, let her know in person. She’ll appreciate the honesty.

Stay friendly following the breakup
Chinese military strategist Sun Tzu was clearly on to something when he advised: "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer." You'll never be great friends again, but by remaining friendly with your ex she'll be far more likely to see you in a positive light. At the end of the day there's no better endorsement than a former lover who still sings your praises.

Play nice with her friends
A breakup isn't an excommunication. Just because you've broken up with your girlfriend doesn't mean you have to be cut off from her friends. Make an attempt to be cordial with her pals when you see them and try your best to take an interest in their lives. Women love to play the role of matchmaker, and over time, this powerful network of acquaintances might be willing to hook you up.

Resist the need to show and tell
It's only natural to want to gossip about your ex following a breakup. But beware -- gossip has a way of spreading and the stories you told in private could eventually come back to bite you, particularly if your friends tell their girlfriends. No woman wants to date a guy who kisses and tells, so do your best to keep the slander to yourself.

Don't show off your next girlfriend
It's okay to run into the arms of another woman following your breakup, just don't rub it in your ex's face. If she asks if you're seeing someone, feel free to admit it, but don't broadcast every detail of your torrid new love affair.

Be positive
What if you don't have a dating history? The bad news is women distrust a grown man who hasn't dated as much as banks distrust clients without a credit history. The good news is every woman has a desperately single friend she's dying to set up. So, try your best to stay upbeat and positive. Speak well of women when you're in their company and show them the respect they deserve. Your reputation as a sweet guy (albeit one who speaks Klingon and still buys comic books) will eventually land you a date.

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