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Cosmo compiled a kinky-lite collection of sexy accessories, skin-tingling items and tasty edibles that will make nights with your man a little naughtier.
Even the most carnal couples can benefit from some fresh, playful accessories, games and techniques that take sex to a more scorching level, explains Joan Elizabeth Lloyd, author of Totally Private: Answers to Questions Lovers Long to Ask. "If you aren't on the lookout for creative ways to keep your lust going, predictability can set in," says Lloyd. "And that stifles even the hottest relationships."
But you know this already. According to our latest sex poll, a whopping 70 percent of Cosmo readers say they love using new props to make things spicier in the sack. You don't have to shell out megabucks for mechanical gadgets or experiment with kinky toys. Instead, incorporate these around-the-house sex-cessories into your routine. We guarantee they'll make doing the deed even more delicious.
Household Goodies
Pillows
Want the hottest seat in the house? Give the old missionary position a little oomph by stacking four fluffy pillows under your backside. "This helps you spread your legs comfortably and lets your guy enter you at a deeper angle," says Lloyd. Translation: Better orgasms for you. Or place the pillows beneath your lower abdomen and lie over them during doggie style. It's more comfortable than being on your hands and knees. Plus, he'll have better access to your moan zones and a hotter view.
Shower Rod
Have your guy hold on to (but not hang from) the shower rod while standing inside the tub as you touch and tantalize him with your hands and tongue.
When it's his turn to please you, strip down to a cotton bra and undies, aim a gentle spray of hot water at your body, grip the shower rod and let him have his way with you. "This drove my fiance crazy. I looked like I'd been in a wet T-shirt contest," recalls Elizabeth, 29. "Men go nuts for that see-through look. And the extra sensation of him touching me through the wet cotton made me hot too."
Desk Fan
Position a small desk fan at your guy's backside during sex. The cool stream of low-speed air against a patch of his hot skin will produce a surprising shivery feeling. "Sex is all about sensation, and the more sensations you feel at one time, the more exciting it will be," says Lloyd. Plus, the extra tickling around his bottom makes it even more stimulating for him.
Hot and Cool Rushes
Popsicles
Fruit-flavored pops aren't just for kids -- they can cool you off when you're heated up under the covers. "After getting me hot with kissing and foreplay, my guy likes to get a pop from the fridge and trace it around my inner arms, the backs of my knees, my buns and along my inner thighs," says Beth, 29. "The sensation of this block of ice against my sweaty skin is amazing -- I practically melt the pop with my body heat alone."
Seltzer Water
You know that bubbly feeling on your tongue after you sip carbonated water? A few drops on your breasts will provide just the right foreplay fizz. "After a party we threw, my boyfriend and I were left with several bottles of seltzer," remembers Shana, 25. "He poured a few drops inside my lace bra, then blew on the droplets as they dried. It gave me this extra goose-bumpy tickle."
Ice and Hot Tea
This hot-and-cold combo is so erotic, your man will never think of a tea party in the same way again. "Sip the hot tea so your mouth and tongue get as steamy as you can stand," explains Lou Paget, author of The Big O: Orgasms. "Then go down on him so he feels the warmth of your mouth against his own hot skin. Next, suck on the ice cube to cool your mouth off." When you go down again, the difference in temperature will drive him wild.
Hot 'n' Handy Tools
Panty Hose
"Wrap a pair of nylons around your hands like gloves," advises Paget. "Then give him a slow, sensual hand job through the fabric." Why he'll be in ecstasy: It's easier to massage his penis through the sheer, silky nylons than with a dry hand. "And he'll also be turned on by feeling this ultrafeminine fabric on his skin," adds Paget.
Hair Scrunchie
"Tying a fabric ponytail holder not too tightly around the base of your guy's penis can provide pressure that's less about pain and more about pleasure," explains Lloyd. "The longer he wears it, the longer he'll be in a state of suspended lust with this reminder of sex wrapped around him." The cotton fabric of the scrunchie will also provide a sensation he isn't used to.
Tasty Treats
Minty Toothpaste
"I had been dying to surprise my guy with mint ever since I heard about Monica Lewinsky's Altoids trick," says Sydney, 26. "So I brushed my teeth with mentholated toothpaste, started kissing him and then went down on him. Not only did it give the cool, refreshing feeling the toothpaste promised, but it also numbed him a little bit, which helped him last longer than he usually does." Besides toothpaste, menthol can be found in some cough drops and mouthwashes.
Soaked Cotton Balls
Drench a cotton ball in a sweet liqueur like amaretto or creme de menthe, then run it down his treasure trail and around and behind his testicles, licking up the liqueur as you go and planting tiny kisses on his most responsive body parts. "The alcohol will evaporate quickly, leaving behind a tingly, cool sensation," says Lloyd.
Pop Rocks
Sprinkle a few of these candies on your tongue just before puckering up. They'll "explode" as you're making out, and your tongue will feel a bubbly, popping sensation. Says Erin, 28: "Pop Rocks are tingly and fun, but the main bonus is that they bring my guy and I back to when kissing was sexy in itself, not just a five-second detour on the road to sex."
Cake-Icing Tubes
"Write a word or phrase on your man's back with icing, then ask him to guess what it says," suggests Lloyd. "Spell out I love you or script dirty things you want to do to him." Or draw an arrow on your body to the spot you want him to touch. It's a hint he'll love to take -- and lick off you later.
Sex-Prop Precautions!
Erotic extras spice up the bedroom, but they can also backfire. Beware of these five passion toys you should never play around with.
Too-hot treats
Nuking marshmallows, fudge or honey and pouring the mixture onto your man sounds like a yummy idea, but be cognizant of the potential for injury. Scorching gooey substances can cause superficial burns to the sensitive skin around a guy's equipment (the same goes for candle wax). Stay in lukewarm territory.
Too-tight mouth gags, scarves and handcuffs
Anything used to restrain a person and prevent movement or breathing can have serious consequences -- even if both partners are willing participants. Binding scarves and handcuffs can cause numbness; blocking the nose or mouth can make you hyperventilate or induce a panic attack.
Foreign bodies
Using a vibrator is one thing. But don't put any object inside you that's not specifically designed for vaginal penetration -- like fruit, vegetables, utensils or writing tools. It could cause irritation or injury to the vagina. Food products in particular can introduce bad bacteria into your body and cause an infection.
Air
If air is blown directly into your vagina during oral sex, there's a small but real risk that he'll accidentally create an air embolus -- an air bubble that blocks the passage of blood in an artery or vein, which could have lethal consequences.
Funky, flavored lubes
Motion lotions that come in cool colors and tempting tastes and scents often contain additives that irritate the vagina or cause allergic reactions. These lubes can also trap bacteria, potentially setting you up for an infection like bacterial vaginosis, yeast and even an STD. Ditch the frills, and go for a basic water-based lubricant.
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Cosmo compiled a kinky-lite collection of sexy accessories, skin-tingling items and tasty edibles that will make nights with your man a little naughtier.
Even the most carnal couples can benefit from some fresh, playful accessories, games and techniques that take sex to a more scorching level, explains Joan Elizabeth Lloyd, author of Totally Private: Answers to Questions Lovers Long to Ask. "If you aren't on the lookout for creative ways to keep your lust going, predictability can set in," says Lloyd. "And that stifles even the hottest relationships."
But you know this already. According to our latest sex poll, a whopping 70 percent of Cosmo readers say they love using new props to make things spicier in the sack. You don't have to shell out megabucks for mechanical gadgets or experiment with kinky toys. Instead, incorporate these around-the-house sex-cessories into your routine. We guarantee they'll make doing the deed even more delicious.
Household Goodies
Pillows
Want the hottest seat in the house? Give the old missionary position a little oomph by stacking four fluffy pillows under your backside. "This helps you spread your legs comfortably and lets your guy enter you at a deeper angle," says Lloyd. Translation: Better orgasms for you. Or place the pillows beneath your lower abdomen and lie over them during doggie style. It's more comfortable than being on your hands and knees. Plus, he'll have better access to your moan zones and a hotter view.
Shower Rod
Have your guy hold on to (but not hang from) the shower rod while standing inside the tub as you touch and tantalize him with your hands and tongue.
When it's his turn to please you, strip down to a cotton bra and undies, aim a gentle spray of hot water at your body, grip the shower rod and let him have his way with you. "This drove my fiance crazy. I looked like I'd been in a wet T-shirt contest," recalls Elizabeth, 29. "Men go nuts for that see-through look. And the extra sensation of him touching me through the wet cotton made me hot too."
Desk Fan
Position a small desk fan at your guy's backside during sex. The cool stream of low-speed air against a patch of his hot skin will produce a surprising shivery feeling. "Sex is all about sensation, and the more sensations you feel at one time, the more exciting it will be," says Lloyd. Plus, the extra tickling around his bottom makes it even more stimulating for him.
Hot and Cool Rushes
Popsicles
Fruit-flavored pops aren't just for kids -- they can cool you off when you're heated up under the covers. "After getting me hot with kissing and foreplay, my guy likes to get a pop from the fridge and trace it around my inner arms, the backs of my knees, my buns and along my inner thighs," says Beth, 29. "The sensation of this block of ice against my sweaty skin is amazing -- I practically melt the pop with my body heat alone."
Seltzer Water
You know that bubbly feeling on your tongue after you sip carbonated water? A few drops on your breasts will provide just the right foreplay fizz. "After a party we threw, my boyfriend and I were left with several bottles of seltzer," remembers Shana, 25. "He poured a few drops inside my lace bra, then blew on the droplets as they dried. It gave me this extra goose-bumpy tickle."
Ice and Hot Tea
This hot-and-cold combo is so erotic, your man will never think of a tea party in the same way again. "Sip the hot tea so your mouth and tongue get as steamy as you can stand," explains Lou Paget, author of The Big O: Orgasms. "Then go down on him so he feels the warmth of your mouth against his own hot skin. Next, suck on the ice cube to cool your mouth off." When you go down again, the difference in temperature will drive him wild.
Hot 'n' Handy Tools
Panty Hose
"Wrap a pair of nylons around your hands like gloves," advises Paget. "Then give him a slow, sensual hand job through the fabric." Why he'll be in ecstasy: It's easier to massage his penis through the sheer, silky nylons than with a dry hand. "And he'll also be turned on by feeling this ultrafeminine fabric on his skin," adds Paget.
Hair Scrunchie
"Tying a fabric ponytail holder not too tightly around the base of your guy's penis can provide pressure that's less about pain and more about pleasure," explains Lloyd. "The longer he wears it, the longer he'll be in a state of suspended lust with this reminder of sex wrapped around him." The cotton fabric of the scrunchie will also provide a sensation he isn't used to.
Tasty Treats
Minty Toothpaste
"I had been dying to surprise my guy with mint ever since I heard about Monica Lewinsky's Altoids trick," says Sydney, 26. "So I brushed my teeth with mentholated toothpaste, started kissing him and then went down on him. Not only did it give the cool, refreshing feeling the toothpaste promised, but it also numbed him a little bit, which helped him last longer than he usually does." Besides toothpaste, menthol can be found in some cough drops and mouthwashes.
Soaked Cotton Balls
Drench a cotton ball in a sweet liqueur like amaretto or creme de menthe, then run it down his treasure trail and around and behind his testicles, licking up the liqueur as you go and planting tiny kisses on his most responsive body parts. "The alcohol will evaporate quickly, leaving behind a tingly, cool sensation," says Lloyd.
Pop Rocks
Sprinkle a few of these candies on your tongue just before puckering up. They'll "explode" as you're making out, and your tongue will feel a bubbly, popping sensation. Says Erin, 28: "Pop Rocks are tingly and fun, but the main bonus is that they bring my guy and I back to when kissing was sexy in itself, not just a five-second detour on the road to sex."
Cake-Icing Tubes
"Write a word or phrase on your man's back with icing, then ask him to guess what it says," suggests Lloyd. "Spell out I love you or script dirty things you want to do to him." Or draw an arrow on your body to the spot you want him to touch. It's a hint he'll love to take -- and lick off you later.
Sex-Prop Precautions!
Erotic extras spice up the bedroom, but they can also backfire. Beware of these five passion toys you should never play around with.
Too-hot treats
Nuking marshmallows, fudge or honey and pouring the mixture onto your man sounds like a yummy idea, but be cognizant of the potential for injury. Scorching gooey substances can cause superficial burns to the sensitive skin around a guy's equipment (the same goes for candle wax). Stay in lukewarm territory.
Too-tight mouth gags, scarves and handcuffs
Anything used to restrain a person and prevent movement or breathing can have serious consequences -- even if both partners are willing participants. Binding scarves and handcuffs can cause numbness; blocking the nose or mouth can make you hyperventilate or induce a panic attack.
Foreign bodies
Using a vibrator is one thing. But don't put any object inside you that's not specifically designed for vaginal penetration -- like fruit, vegetables, utensils or writing tools. It could cause irritation or injury to the vagina. Food products in particular can introduce bad bacteria into your body and cause an infection.
Air
If air is blown directly into your vagina during oral sex, there's a small but real risk that he'll accidentally create an air embolus -- an air bubble that blocks the passage of blood in an artery or vein, which could have lethal consequences.
Funky, flavored lubes
Motion lotions that come in cool colors and tempting tastes and scents often contain additives that irritate the vagina or cause allergic reactions. These lubes can also trap bacteria, potentially setting you up for an infection like bacterial vaginosis, yeast and even an STD. Ditch the frills, and go for a basic water-based lubricant.
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Loved reading these wonderful ideas. Got me in the mood just reading them. I'll be trying them out soon.
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